What have you done today to make you feel proud?


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In the words of Heather Small, from ‘M’ people. What have you done today to make you feel proud?

This blog post came from the last ten days of being absorbed in the Olympics, watching our British athletes emerge victorious, again and again and again.  My oldest son, Joseph absolutely adores watching all the events too and it has been something which has made me feel really proud of being British.  It has been so lovely to watch the champions being congratulated by their families who they repeatedly saying that they could not have been successful without their support and sacrifice.

It’s been awesome.

Now I know we can’t all be Olympic athletes, and don’t have the desire to be, but watching these people and their rise to the top of their game shows something really important.  Sometimes achieving something we really want, want to change, takes time, and effort. In the words of Henry Ford;

‘If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you’ve always got’

I meet a lot of people in my work who want to feel better about themselves, there is something they want to change.  Whether it is something specific, like an experience or trauma they want to get past, or a feeling of just not feeling great about life, there will always be a goal, or target, they have in mind.  This is the first step to moving forward and feeling better about our lives, having something we want to achieve, a goal we set ourselves, and it is, in this situation, all about us.

There are people out there who want desperately to make a change but don’t, for whatever reason feel they can commit to making that change, or want it to happen after one session, like magic.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t happen like that. Just like an Olympic athlete can’t wake up one morning and think, I am going to win a gold medal today, and then turn over and go back to sleep, we cannot just decide to feel better, do something for a day, or even a week and expect it all to be better.  We might feel better in the short term, more relaxed, more calm and more ‘zen’, but life does get in the way and can trip us up again if we don’t really get on top of what is going on for us and how to get through it.

I love seeing the cumulative effect of the work and support I give my clients, whether it is in my one to one sessions or my group relaxation sessions.  Once people start to understand what is holding them back, and most importantly, that it is not their fault, then they can start to make real progress, and feel really good about it.

When you are in the middle of it all, it is really difficult to see the wood for the trees.  You feel overwhelmed, you have no idea why. You feel guilty and are worrying about the little things which you know are inconsequential but you just can’t stop, and you feel dissatisfied with your life, your job or something else and feel like you could just walk away.  All of these are common symptoms which can be overcome, with time, commitment and enjoyment of learning how to relax, and support yourself.

So, if you are feeling at a loss right now. Know that your stuff is just that, stuff that can be overcome.  You don’t need to be as dedicated as an Olympic athlete to get through these challenges, but we all need a bit of support, a bit of hand holding and a bit of perspective sometimes.

It makes a real difference when we feel understood and we realise we are not alone, we are not the only one.

So, do something which makes you feel proud, put yourself first and take one small step towards feeling better about yourself, and your life right now.


If something isn’t feeling quite right in your life right now, and you want something to change for the better, get in touch here to book a free consultation so I can listen, and explain how I can help.


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