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I came to Clare as a super busy mum juggling millions of things and feeling quite overwhelmed with meeting pressures of work, motherhood, wife, family etc. I had no reservations about working with Clare, I found her to be personable and a real source of expertise and guidance.I had a really positive experience working with her. She asked the right questions to be able to guide the self discovery journey and development from within.  I found her to have an very open, curious, kind and calm manner.

The best part of the support which Clare gave me was the opportunity to reach practical solutions on how to find critical ‘me-time’ to be able to release stress bucket and transition between role of business woman, and loving mum of 3 year old and wife.  To gain confidence from within that life can get easier and be better through having tips and tools to make practical and powerful changes.

AG

Before I worked with Clare, I was full of self loathing and had very low self esteem. I was so fearful of life and had very high anxiety levels that were taking over my thinking and stopping me enjoying my life.

This had an impact on my home life, I was arguing constantly with my partner and passing my anxieties onto my 4 year old and 8 year old daughters, for example i had great fears of walking under or near trees, and was scared of brick walls falling on them- this would really impact out activities and I would drain all the fun out of the day. To cope with this I was drinking heavily to the point I was out of control and blacking out. I was stress eating and had put on 2 stone, which then made me feel ugly and useless and I got to the point where I didn’t even dress nice or make an effort to wear clean clothes had signed up for a college course that I hadn’t even started and didn’t know how to start. My life was unmanageable.

As soon as I met Clare I felt at ease. She made me feel safe and I trusted her totally. I appreciated the way that she explained the process of what she was doing with me. I looked forward to every meeting we had, and I never felt judged so I could tell you everything without holding back.

In summary, Clare has literally changed my life.  My anxiety levels have decreased massively, and if I feel them creeping up I have the tools to deal with this and reduce them quickly.

I can take the children out now and not be fearful of unrealistic dangers. through Clare’s work with me I have stopped drinking alcohol- currently 2 months sober which is a miracle as I have never gone a couple of days without alcohol in approximately 4 years. I have lost over 1 stone because am no longer stress eating.

I understand my thinking now and recognize when my stress bucket is getting full. Clare has taught me to break things down into manageable size pieces so that they are not overwhelming, and to set small targets that are realistic.

I have begun my college course and have accepted that although I can’t complete the whole course I can complete the first unit, and that it is ok. With Clare’s wonderful help, my whole family has benefited, we laugh and smile a lot more, I am eternally grateful.

DR

 

 

My appointments with Clare are one thing that I look forward to all day.It is so very easy to focus on the negative things there are in life and this becomes a habit, eventually the habit overcomes you and you are negative and give off negativity.

Clare has helped me to find the positives and the gifts in everyday, however small they may be. And just as the negative is a habit, finding the positive becomes a habit too. A habit that makes you happy inside, makes you smile on the outside, makes the negative easy to pass over and draws people to you. Your new found positive seeking skills rub off on to other people.

Each session I pull out my little list of good stuff that’s happened since we last saw each other. This is usually along the lines of; ‘I walked the dog, it was a really good walk’ or ‘I lost 2 lb this week’ or ‘my husband did something really nice’ or ‘I accepted help from someone’.

Then we set my plan of when I leave, what would make me happier? Inevitably it is the little things that make a difference, learning a new recipe, playing with the dogs, spending time with my husband, tackling that pile of paperwork, asking friends or family to meet up.

When I first came to Clare I was carrying a bucket full of stresses, worries and anger. I was finding day to day life really hard work and I was in a cycle of going over all of the wrong doings if my life, over and over again.

We put a stop to it that day, I made a choice to be happy again and move forward with my life. You cannot move forward if you are hanging on to the past! 

So I look forward to telling my week’s stories, setting the new small steps, taking 3 deep breaths and listen to Clare’s relaxing voice and drift off into complete relaxation.

I love having that time for me and me only.

HD

 

When I started having sessions with Clare, I was still in the relatively early stages of grieving after the loss of my daughter, and I felt as though I was ‘only just keeping my head above water’. On days where everything went smoothly and according to plan I felt able to cope, but my resilience levels were so low it would take just the tiniest thing to tip me over the edge in to ‘not coping’. I was anxious about my future, and found it difficult to find the positives in life.

I did not have any reservations about working with Clare, as I had worked with her for many months before and trusted her completely. However, I was slightly apprehensive at my readiness to engage in a different type of therapy at the time, but I quickly learnt it was absolutely what I needed.

I found the whole process very supportive and helpful for me. Clare was flexible with appointments, and we used my progress to plan when the best time for the next session would be, which made me feel like the focus was completely on me and how I was doing. Clare explained the science behind the work very clearly, which made it easier to understand what was going on in my brain when I felt at a low, and even when I started to feel better. I always enjoyed the relaxation very much too, it was a helpful and beneficial part of the session.

I don’t know if there is one single thing that I can say is my ‘best result’, as there were so many things that have changed for me through working with Clare. I suppose the main one is my resilience, as I now feel able to take (most) things in life in my stride, and they do not feel catastrophic. I feel positive about the future, and am more easily able to focus on the positive things in life. I also feel equipped with the tools to improve my situation if I feel like things are slipping back into being how they were. This is really empowering, as I always feel as though there is a solution to my problem.

I was feeling increasingly stressed, whilst there was no one trigger. I think work issues were a factor and the longing to get pregnant and worrying it might not happen for us.

Due to suffering from anxiety previously I was worried I was slipping back into an anxious cycle and that worrying fed by anxiety! My sleep pattern was very poor, not only would I take a long time to get to sleep I would also wake up several times a night and never feel like I had benefited from a deep sleep.  I was quite hard on myself, often berating myself for not being able to manage my anxiety better.

I didn’t have reservations about working with Clare, my only concern was that I wouldn’t be able to get into the treatments as I would find it very hard to switch off.

The whole brain explanation made sense to me, I enjoyed the structure of the sessions with the goal setting at the start each week. I felt reassured and at ease and Clare helped me to recognise the progress I was making. I really enjoyed the sessions and was fascinated with the cumulative effect, I know I got better at relaxing and would drift off at an earlier stage each time.

Clare was extremely professional and that we were working together rather than feeling she was just ‘treating’ me. I felt my confidence growing but never felt any obligation to say things were improving until I knew they really were.

I found the environment I was in conducive to feeling relaxed as well as the tone of your voice and the words that started to become very familiar to me. It was also just enjoyable and made me feel hopeful that I could take control over my anxiety again.

The first benefit I noticed was the sleep! I listened to the sleep mp3 every night and after hearing it from beginning to end the first few nights I suddenly realised that I had slept through the whole night and only heard maybe the first 10 minutes. Having gone so long dreading night time because I’d work myself up at the thought of not sleeping the feeling of just being able to go to bed with no anxiety, confident I would drop off and wake up when I was ready made such a difference.

I feel like the sessions with Clare helped me to trust my abilities to cope so even when I was having a moment of stress I could see it for what it was: a moment and something I could recover from. I started to panic less when I noticed myself getting tense.

I can honestly say the sessions helped me to feel more like myself. I hated my anxiety as it really stripped me of my identity, I felt like I was fighting with myself all the time and it was exhausting.

I’m now feeling more confident, more in control, more optimistic and happier.

I’m not afraid of facing challenges and feel prepared to deal with them. I am so happy I decided to give hypnotherapy a go, I would definitely recommend it to others and would revisit in the future if I felt the need.

SL

 

 

 

Clare supported me with a series of sessions which helped hugely as I battled acute anxiety and the beginnings of depression.

Seeing Clare weekly helped to focus my recovery into small manageable steps and also helped me to believe that recovery and feeling ‘normal’ and happy could actually happen.

Clare’s understanding and explanation into why my body was reacting the way it was (because of anxiety and depression) was pivotal in my recovery.

Clare is naturally a very warm, empathetic and supportive person. Her professionalism and experience, along with these personable qualities ensure a service which makes you feel understood, safe and comfortable.

Clare is so good at helping steer your mind towards the positive and joyful elements of life and realise that goals are attainable.

For me, the sessions brought me hope, peace, and a desire to be stronger and better. I achieved them all thanks to Clare and the tailored service that she is so naturally able to give.

AM

Prior to beginning my sessions, I was suffering from post-natal depression and had been on medication for nearly 2 and half years for my symptoms. I found I was stuck in a cycle of negative thinking and was unable to break myself out. I knew I needed to change my eating habits and stick at exercise if I had any chance of improving my state of mind and have any success in one day coming off my medication. I found I was constantly tired and very very down on myself. I knew the steps I needed to take to improve my state of mind but felt I had no motivation to make them happen.

I had many reservations about my sessions. Due to my negative thinking, my main fear was that it wouldn’t work. I always have worries about trying a new therapy and putting any credence on it improving my situation as I feel so vulnerable about possibly attempting another thing that doesn’t make any difference.

I was also fearful that it might make my symptoms worse. I had no reason at all to think this; it was simply fear of the unknown.  Also, I was aware that to get the most from the sessions I would have to be entirely honest about my symptoms and situation and knowing that M is a small town, I was concerned before meeting Clare that we might have mutual acquaintances which would make things awkward and I wouldn’t be able to be honest. I need not have worried. I found Clare to be amazingly warm and welcoming – yet still maintaining such a high level of professionalism – It was so easy to talk about everything – never did I feel self-conscious.

The earliest appointment was informative and discussed the basis, the 3 P’s and the way our thoughts /minds work. We talked about our stress buckets and our intellectual minds. Everything made perfect logical sense to me, and as I result I was so eager to begin the sessions and felt no fear at all

The sessions felt like my positive time, they were a gentle mental and physical haven in which to relax, recharge and heal. We always began in a similar way, focussing on the positive events and interactions since our last meeting. It was a real lesson in how to notice the positive, little things we often take for granted. We never dismissed anything positive no matter how small. It was also a fantastic lesson in how to start with a small thing to improve to make your life better. Avoiding trying to tackle mountains, which often result in you being disappointed with yourself?

Of course I very much looked forward to my sessions. I found the entire process a truly enlightening, fulfilling and positive experience. Right from the outset I felt completely comfortable with Clare. I could discuss my most irrational fears and thoughts. I was only ever met with positive reactions and made to feel at ease. No expectations and no judgements. 

I started to see a real positive change in myself from very early on in our meetings.

I started to find the voice in my head was much more logical and less emotional. I started being much kinder to myself in my thought process, and I spent less time ruminating over a single thought or problem. It suddenly became easier to reach a conclusion and move on. I began to realise that just because something had happened a certain way before, it didn’t mean it had to be this way all the time.

During the weeks surrounding our sessions I started to find myself approaching things I would never have dreamed off this time last year. I began to take regular exercise and stopped making excuses or wanting to! I hosted a children’s party at my house and found myself inviting people over when once I would’ve made excuses. I also wanted to conclude disagreements within the family instead of letting arguments linger on for hours.

Moving forward, although not entirely ready to come off my medication, I have a plan in place for doing this – it is my ultimate goal. I feel stronger and more determined. And although my initial thought when I replied to Clare was that when the sessions came to an end I would be “running 3 times a week”, eating nothing but healthy foods etc. (and I am much closer to this than when I started!!), the strengths and skills I have been left with after our sessions are much more important. I have been given life skills – things that will help me throughout my life – my ability to identify stress, de stress and be positive. I will continue to listen to the MP3 that I have been given (and have even shared it with my son) and every day before I go to bed, I will look at all of the positive things that have happened – no matter how small. There is really no need or desire to go over anything negative anymore.

SL